Nearly everyone has an opinion about love. And if you don’t have any yet, just type ‘Love’ in google search and it will return about 4,400,000,000 (four billion, four hundred million) results to you in 0.51 seconds! The word love has that much diverse opinions, thoughts and definitions from various individuals and groups.
Since 19kpirigidim (3rd-century actually), after the death of St. Valentine, February has become the world acclaimed month of love and February 14th named the D-day for lovers. So you hear lots of people saying February 14 is Val’s day aka Lovers day. And this tag has caused a lot of people headaches, heartaches and heartbreaks. It has also made some to lose their sense of reasoning aka common sense as the day draws nearer. (For some history on St. Valentine’s real story, click here).
I must admit that it takes real hard work, serious conscious effort and the special Grace of God to not feel ‘somehow’ in this season if you do not have a special someone who is planning to ‘spoil’ you this weekend. The shouts and echoes of ‘love’ in the atmosphere is almost overwhelming. But just before you get carried away by the gift wrappings, online deals and other Valentine trappings, seat yourself down and ask yourself “What exactly do I know about St. Valentine?” And just before you crucify yourself or your special someone for not treating you exceptionally this weekend, ask your self this questions:
a. What is Love? (1 John 4:7-8)
b. What are the characteristics of love? (1 Corinthians 13:1-13)
c. Should love be celebrated only once in a year based on the world’s calendar?
- If your answer is no, then you shouldn’t let yourself get unnecessarily worked up this weekend.
d. Should my love for someone be determined by how I treat him/her on 14 February only?
- If your answer is no, then don’t judge anyone by how they treat you on the 14th of February or any other ‘special day’ of the year.
So beyond the chocolates, flowers, wines, teddy bears and other gifts of the season, whether you gave or received any, look beyond the packaging and remember that love should be given and received everyday. Don’t let yourself get carried away by the spirit of envy, ingratitude or even depression. Whether you got a gift or not, don’t kee yourself! Stop comparing your life with that of your friends or colleagues who you feel got gifts you deserved (and not them). And don’t diss your guy or baibe for not getting you the kin’of gift your friends got from their special someone. Be Content!
Be grateful that you are alive and more importantly seek out ways to give and show love this season. After all, blessed is the one that gives than the one that takes. Finally, if you can afford it, take some time out this weekend and give yaself some TLC me time. You can take yourself out or spend it indoors after service.
Btw, I am open to any gifts you may choose to send my way this weekend, hehehe.
Wishing y’all a fun and Fulfilled weekend/Valentine celebration. As always, don’t do anything that God will not approve of.
God bless y’all.
PS: I’m grateful to you all that took out time to sympathize with me after my post on When Death Happens, may sorrow and grief not come your way in Jesus name, Amen.