Good morning lovelies.
Happy New Month again 😊 😊 😊
We had an interesting new month hangout on the blog yesterday, please check it out HERE.
It’s another beautiful Thursday with a fresh episode of the SFF Series. Our star guest today is a friend and Teen Coach I respect so much. He is also the co-founder of Light Bearers ministry, an online youth church I belong to. And today, he shares with us the practicability and importance of being Fruitful and Fulfilled as a single.
I present you the SFF Series with Kingsley Chidubem Ezebuiro. Enjoy!
Being Single Is A Season Of Discovery, Risk Taking, Adventure And Charting A Course For The Future – Kingsley Chidubem Ezebuiro
SFF Question: Can we meet you please?
Kingsley: Sure. My name is Ezebuiro Kingsley Chidubem. A teen coach, fashion designer (Dress Code) and a Project Manager. I am also the Co-founder of Light Bearers Ministry, an online church for Singles.
SFF Question: What does being single mean to you?
Kingsley: To me, being single is a season of discovery, risk taking, adventure and charting a course for the future.
SFF Question: Can a single be fruitful and fulfilled?
Kingsley: Yes, a single can be fruitful and fulfilled. For every believer in our Lord Jesus Christ, being fruitful is a command irrespective of your marital status.
SFF Question: At what point did it dawn on you that one can be fruitful and fulfilled even before getting married?
Kingsley: I believe it was during my national youth service year (NYSC) in 2011; I realized that I had to produce results that would speak for itself. Words alone can’t convince anyone but results can, undeniably.
SFF Question: How important is it to discover purpose and have a vision before getting married?
Kingsley: It is very crucial that you discover what you have been designed to accomplish (purpose) by your manufacturer (God) before you get married. Marriage doesn’t really transform a man without purpose to become purposeful; rather it amplifies the gaps of not knowing what you are called out for. As the responsibilities and demands of marriage sets in, it becomes increasingly difficult to discover oneself at that time; (requiring extra discipline and sacrifice if that would happen).
SFF Question: Did you have any wedding plans for 2016 or desire to get married before end of 2016?
Kingsley: Oh yes I did; but I am grateful it didn’t happen as I have a little more time to secure my destiny in the place of working in my purpose and God’s vision for my life before I get married.
SFF Question: What can a single do to become SFF?
Kingsley: Accept Jesus as your Savior; identify your purpose through your passion (things that burden your heart and you want to make a difference in them) or by demanding God’s clear cut direction in the place of prayer; begin to run with the mandate. There’s a popular saying that “what is worth doing is worth doing right”; but I would say “what is worth doing is worth doing badly until you get it right”. Don’t wait for the perfect time or be scared of failing; you don’t fail, you only discover ways of not doing it right.
SFF Question: Advice to anyone who think it is impossible to be SFF?
Kingsley: Do not rush out of the singlehood phase; relish it, treasure it and maximize your time now you have fewer things demanding for your attention. Dr Pastor Paul Enenche said “Time runs without your permission; not asking if you have accomplished what you set to achieve, it keeps pushing you into the future”.
Lost time cannot be re-manufactured. Take charge of your future and destiny by doing what others won’t do today in order to have what others won’t have tomorrow.
Discipline yourself in all areas – emotional, financial, spiritual etc. For the spiritual I would add this, if you can’t seek God’s face in the place of prayer and fasting for days for your life as a single man or woman, don’t think you would find it easy to do so, if the devil comes attacking your family.
SFF Bonus Question: What part of your lifestyle do you think will likely change after marriage?
Kingsley: Hmmm… Change? I think the number of hours/days I spend outside my house would be reduced…
Gbam! Thank you so much Kingsley! I particularly love the way you explained that marriage is NOT the place to discover our purpose:
It is very crucial that you discover what you have been designed to accomplish (purpose) by your manufacturer (God) before you get married. Marriage doesn’t really transform a man without purpose to become purposeful; rather it amplifies the gaps of not knowing what you are called out for. As the responsibilities and demands of marriage sets in, it becomes increasingly difficult to discover oneself at that time.
This just drives home that you have to be purposeful first as a single in order to know the right person to partner with as a spouse.
Thanks again sire for taking out time to answer these #SFF FAQs.
Your turn sweeties, what’s your takeaway from Kingsley’s interview? Please share in the comment box let’s learn together.
Up next on the SFF Series is Wumi Akin, serial Entrepreneur and CEO of Blue Orange Catering.
Special shout out to all my female readers in Lagos. Sweeties, I’ll really love to have a great time fellowshipping with y’all at our TWTW Meet this Saturday. It’s free hun but you got to register HERE. Wrote more details in my special invite HERE.
Wishing y’all a most Fruitful and Fulfilling rest of week.
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