Still as sequel to the e-Boost on DEAR PARENTS, today, we’ll be learning from a 21st Century mum on how she balances her home front and her career. But before then, I want to say a Big WELCOME to all new blog followers, please relax and make yourself comfortable in our e-family #hugs.
In the past two weeks, we’ve been running a mini e-Boost series on Balancing career and the home front, please click here and here if you missed the first two episodes. Last week, a 21st Century dad shared with us how he balances parenting and his numerous businesses. Today, another parent, an amazing 21st Century mum this time, shares with us some tips of how she balances attention to her home and her career. Please seat back, read, learn and share your opinions in the comment box.
Balancing Parenting And Your Career – Akachukwu Obichukwu
If you’re a parent struggling to find a balance between parenting and your career, don’t panic, you’re not alone. The need to build, maintain and run a well bonded home cannot be overlooked, neither can the need to make sufficient income for the home front be ignored, as no family can run smoothly on a dry purse.
Establishing a balance between parenting and one’s career is one of the biggest challenges faced by most homes in different parts of the world. The quest to get these two giants properly handled has driven so many homes to one extreme – some choosing to sacrifice their career for the home front while some others choose the reverse. But each choice has its negative consequence… When we make all the money and loose the home, it’s tantamount to burying tomorrow in the womb of today. On the other hand, if we choose to run a home without any means of taking care of it financially, we culture hell-fire on earth. Hence, there is a critical need to balance parenting and your career. Let’s journey together through some of the ways I strike a balance between these two demanding giants:
- Godly wisdom: “Wisdom is the principal thing” and through wisdom, a house is built and its apartment thoroughly furnished. With godly wisdom, there is nothing impossible in life – no task too elaborate and no situation unmanageable. Drawing daily strength and wisdom from God has been the beginning of a successful journey to achieving efficiency and effectiveness on both areas. You need divine wisdom to know when to let go of some jobs that are militating against your family success. Most times, we are limited when we depend on our own abilities – we need to depend more on God and His wisdom. Little wonder Philippians 4:13 says, í can do all things through Christ that strengthens me.
Any parent that wants to strike a balance between parenting and career must also seek for godly counsel, for in the multitude of these counsels, there is safety (balance) (Proverbs 11:14). Learn to ascertain from divine counsel on how to manage any situation, marriage and career inclusive.
- Cultivate the right values and mindset: Life is not about accumulation of money and success in life is not just measured by high career profile. Most families and nations that are having moral, relational and other crisis are very rich in mineral and human resources. That tells you that money is not everything. There is an Igbo adage that says that if one abandons life in pursuit of wealth, one invariably lives one’s life at the mercy of one’s enemy. Most times, we are successful in our careers but fail woefully at the home front. If you have a family, strive to build a strong value system in your kids and wards, and not just on the financial means of sustaining them. This is because any family that has a strong value system, great family bonding, and the right spirit of oneness, but with little income for today has a great future ahead. On the other hand, any family with huge source of financial traffic with little or no strong value system, family bonding and spirit of oneness, has no future.
- Understanding your responsibility as a parent: Balancing parenting and career begins with the understanding that as much as both are important, family should come first. I believe our children should be given as much attention as our careers even more, because there are things that cannot wait for later and training up a child the right way is one of them. Anything that will function efficiently and effectively, proper planning and strategizing will have to be considered, and that requires input which must include sacrificial ones for a tomorrow that one desires. As a mother, I’m more concerned about understanding the responsibility of a woman in the home.
The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down. – Proverbs 14:1
A woman who refuses to train her children in the way they should go is only tearing her home down! The responsibilities of a mother cannot be overemphasized because they are like the gardener that nurtures the plants with all that it needs to blossom. Training a child requires a consciousness that at any time you have to spend with them, you constantly remind them of who they are. At times I consciously tell my girls of how Jesus loves them and how Jesus is their friend, I believe that I am giving them an understanding of their true identity and also beginning the day with creating love consciousness in them. The Proverbs 31 woman was not a failure at her responsibilities; she was able to combine parenting and her work – a perfect role model for every family woman to emulate.
- Make and implement strategic plans for alternative income: A family must make plan for alternative source(s) of income that will not eat deep into the fabrics of their schedules. For example, if your present career is starving your family of your time and attention, you could make a six-month or one-year plan to invest the proceeds of the career into a family business that will give you more time for your family. The growth of such business can help you tomorrow to resign gracefully from the over demanding job. Other Strategic planning may include:
- Plan ahead for what your family will live on. You can use early hours of the morning to prepare for the family’s feeding. You can also dedicate your weekends to intensive family care and put things in place for the coming week’s feeding and house-keeping.
- Invest in yourself, aside your career; you can learn other skills that will help your earning and negotiation power for more time to be with your family.
Striking a balance between parenting and your career is a common rat race in different parts of the world and there is really no ‘one-size-fits-all’ solution for tackling this challenge. But I believe that these tips – divine wisdom, proper value system/mindset, understanding the responsibility of a man/woman in the home and making implementable strategic plans – that are working for me can help you log out of this rat race too.
I do hope you have learnt a thing or more from Akachukwu Obichukwu’s tips on how she balances parenthood and her career. Please don’t hesitate to share your comments and opinions in the comment box.
Akachukwu Obichukwu is a Dietitian, Gospel minister and wife to Pastor Peter Uzochukwu Obichukwu, founder of Ideal Life Global City Outreach. You can connect with and know more about her by following her on facebook @Akachukwu Victoria or clicking here.
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